DaveFen

Bosen deh akhir2 ini…dan juga lagi bosen ngomong inggris dan ngetik dalam bahasa inggris hahaha… this week is an exam week, mualesss nya belajar…benernya kagak ada sing dipelajarin sih… btw..no need talk about exam. Weekend kemaren lumayan relaxing, we had weekend break in A famosa resort. enak juga sih, nyewa bunggalow beramai2 dan boleh bawa furkid. Lebih tepatnya anjing gue yang liburan daripada gue dan suami. karena dia lagi bnyak teman2 dan nggak mau tidur, karena dia nggak tidur dan lari sana sini jadinya gue juga kagak bisa tidur…ihhh.. Trus malam nya aku dan suami pergi ke flea market di jonker street melaka, oh sebelumnya makan malam kegemaran dulu…nyonya food..yummy!. setelah itu jalan2 di flea market..beli klompen haha..buat pake waktu laundry dan bersihin toilet anjing gue… trus makan nyonya cendol, waduh… makan tok deh… dan seperti biasanya karena gue berkencan dengan suami sampe malam, jadinya anjing gue dititipin sama temen deh dan dia yang dengan senang hati taking care and bring her around..hahaha…emang enak kalo punya teman se bunggalow yang perhatian.. Trus minggu paginya…gue seperti biasanya kagak bangun pagi, pas bangun jam 8.30 dan keluar kamar, loh mana nih temen2 se bunggalow kok ilang semua..mana nih anjing2 kok kagak ada… eh ternyata semua udah pada keluar di kompleks bunggalow ngajak jalan2 anjingnya dan anjing gue sekalian ngikut hahaha… lucu juga…. berlibur with furkids… hahah…setelah weekend yang melelahkan…dan balik rumah…eh si anjing tidur nggak bangun2 sampe senin..capek kali yah.. sekarang have to prepare for coming exam deh… tata…

Have You heard about 360 degree learning?

Its just one of the learning style, that you learns from any differrent angle and others people prespective.

But isn ‘t it painful if you have to learn from the person that you don’t like most? or from the people that you do not "click" most?  YES it is frustrated feeling and the fact that make you more frustrated is you could learn most from them.

Ego matters, it is how you take aside your pride and your ego. 

It is about manipulate them, that actually you let them think that you learn from them instead they learn from you, yet they are actually learn from you. It called planting!!

Remember Planting could be very painful process. I give you a scenario, You work in a project with somebody, you have your own idea, and your partner have his/her own idea too. How to make him/her to use your idea instead of their idea by make them think as if your idea is their idea. And in the end of the day when it successful, they will achieve their rewards, not yours. It is painful to see, but you are successfully plant them and make they learn from you unconsciously.

It is difficult to do, but it is a challange… especially for instructional design!

Well… best white rat to practice with is your own Husband… hahaha..

Happy practicing. Remember ego could fail you…

Been so long never updated my personal blog in Friendster. Been using most of my time for FROG-ing in my my class online. I am kinda miss my private moment to just write something more personal rather than disucssing my learning process with my classmate. But it doens’nt mean am neglected them too

Split personality, indeed very useful when u can use it in the right time and right place, been practicing this psychology phenomenon lately. I am using my other personality when bloging this site I need to strip naked my mind to vomiting what is in my ‘ amadela’ (primitive brain).

Lately, been so heavy and messy day for my poor brain. I am not able to control my self juggling between work, study and personal life…it seem all become study life.. 24/7 nonstop thinking make my poor brain drains to dry. But when you stop thinking means that your brain start damaging…its ironinc.

Manipulating is the best way to pecify my mind. Confirmation bias what I seek for… so I rather stop this process than I will be feeding up with my own mind with full of hallucination.

Well, I enjoy very much the learning, its so rich of experience that I can actually derive a lot of psychology of learning from others, the way they behave..make me become behaviorist toward them too. Being behaviorist is Un-avoidable, its human nature. But Of course I willing to be more cognitivst. I need to really practice that in order to fulfill my metacognitive process.

Sigh…what I talking about btw… I just need to vomiting what I hold for quite sometime… Frustration for my own high standard? been so tough to my self!

By the Grace of the God I am what I am… it compassionate me ! 

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.

Here’s the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse wasn’t hard. In fact,  it was a  completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called "falling" in love…

Because it’s happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It’s a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It’s the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a  much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious.  But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT’S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. 

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience.  It’ll NEVER just happen to you. You can’t "find" LASTING love. You have to “make" it day in and day out. That’s why we have the expression "the labor of love."

Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain   habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It’s a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable…you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a “decision"… Not just a feeling.

Any response for my blog that I just share? welcome welcome…

I am in the term of adjusting, positioning and sometime questioning my self, why I study again and destroy my routine schedule. I am struggling with the time management, I wish 24 hrs is longer than the existing one.

List to be done:

1. Assignment

2. Assignment

3. Assignment

4. Laundry

5. Clean the house

6. ironing

7. walk my dog

Wondering where my hubby going? yeah..where is he? ohh he actually have a new role to be my cheerleader Its not an easy job,the client that he suppose o entertain has a lil bit brain damage already haha..

Oh and then now I more dedicated my time to write my class FrOG (Free online Group) becos there got point one heheheh..no lah becos I need to vomit out all my "question" in order to challage my ability to make other ppl response what I expect them to response  but of cos I need the unexpected response. Expected one make me bored lar… eh why I started talking like malaysian… oops sorry pren… I have a brain problem again…

talk to u soon again

I am back, after few days off from our Phuket trip. It was great and relaxing before we start again the busy schedule.

Yes we went to phuket, but I would like to write my blog about phi phi island first.

Me and my hubby love to go vacation in the island. we both love beach, sunbathing and snorkling. And Phi phi don is one of the best place to be.

Its small island about 1.5 hrs by normal cruise from Phuket. Along the way we can see the main island called phi phi don rest with many small island  including Bida Nok, Bida Noi, and Bamboo Island, are not much more than large limestone rocks jutting out of the sea in the Indian ocean.

The trip is pretty rough with unforgiven wave because of the moonsoon season. It was raining a lil bit though, make the ship a bit bumpy and scary.

Before we landed to the mainland, we went to snorkling in Maya Bay, we can see lotsa of "bulu babi", colorful fish and coral. But the coral was a bit damaged because of the previous Tsunami.

Talking about Tsunami, either Phuket or Phi Phi, they are 100% recovered. And it was amazing how fast they recovered as the disaster never happend before.

After snorkling we land to Phi Phi Don, and we have sea food lunch, then sightseeing in the Island about 2 hrs.

We love hanging around in the beach and shopping in the small stalls. But too bad we didnt go to the viking cave where the swalow bird come from Siberia every year to make their nest and produce the very expensive bird nest. And we also miss for shark watching too.

Btw, one day trip to Phi Phi is a bit limited to explore the whole island and the activity. We plan for next trip we will stay there for few days for diving.

Now I can imagine how leonardo De Caprio in "The beach" movie called the place heaven on earth.. It is indeed. When I watched the movie I never imagine I will visit that place, I am glad I have the chance to visit. It was a great memory captured in my mind

To be continue for another story of our Phuket trip…

Today I took a leave for my Master orientation day. Suppose to have a half day leave then the orientation is longer that I expected, infact its a whole tiring orientation day.

The orientation day its self is pretty fun and intriguing, the professor are friendly and impressive. My classmate are interesting people with many different education background and working environment.

Oh and I have new classmate from Iran which is a quiet outspoken woman and extremly friendly Give me a different impression than others.

It is a proud that I can joint the best 100 univeristy in the world . But its also a challance for me to achieve the best. Its a long journey to go..

MIT is a very interesting subject, we can enhance a better knowledge and transform out self to be a totaly different mind set and force us to be a creative thinker, its about pschicology, technology, instructional all blend together. Its a culture. And learning about a culture and new paradigm on it is always intriguing.

I dont know if I have a passion to teach, or to train, but I have a passsion to learn.

I belive the whole life we have its about a learning process in order to gain our goal.

So to all my classmate… happy learning!! :) 

I tried to perfect my sambal belacan…and its alwayssss fail..:(( Darn!! Seem so easy to make but in the end the result like …crap!!!

Do u know how much effort I take to make the good one… from chilli boh, to dry chilli, from fry garlic to blend garlic… everything I try to make it perfect. but what happend?…the result still not perfect… arghhh.. than am thinking better buy the sambal from Malay stall, ony cost me max RM 5-10 rather than I make, and sweet, and dirty, smelly, and cleaning part killing me…. buttttt I still want to make oneee… anybody can help??

Oh.. I just cook reddish soup, doing my laundry, trim my flower..so effisien…ahh.. but not this topic that am gonna share. While did those work I was thinking about my gal ( my furkid = dog), she is the one who always company me do housework, even do nothing just sit and look at me..am happy :).. oh rite now she is also here with her princess (purple bone) and her hamburger that her dada bought her when she passed her exam.

Oh talking about my gal, I am so proud when she won the 2nd place in the dog olympic for amazing dog race. At first we dont have confident that she can do that, so my hubby reluctant to join the game, becos that race need agility skill and she hasnt enter agility class yet, even hasnt finish her pre novis class :)…but I told my hubby, its ok to have fun and have a lil faith to the gal. And then suprisingly she did well and without fail, the result is not important but her effort is amazing..am so proud..hehehe..

ohhh..my soup boiling…should prepare dinner for my love ones…happy reading…

Cooking is one my hobby, even am not master on it, but it can be my stress therapy or forget the problem in my work place. Want to share so called ‘the lazy cook for wifey’ means we lazy to cook and no idea what to cook, or dont have much things to cook but we want to cook. So some friend share with me this recipe and I tried and the result was good and hubby not complain

Spaghetti with Mushroom and herb ( from Drina )

Ingredient:

- Dried Spaghetti pasta

- Fresh Button and Shitake Mushroom

- Spanish Onion (Bawang Bombay)

- Salt and garlic powder

- Herb ( Can use fresh parsley or dried oregano )

- Butter

Cooking:

Boil Spaghetti untill tender, put aside

Stir Onion till fragrance, put the mushroom and stir till fragrance, put salt and garlic powder, a bit of butter for moist and put the spaghetti and sprinkle with herb, cook till all mix together. Serve hot with garlic bread.

Oh if you are not in the mood for pasta, you can cook a very simple basic Indo/Malay food…

Fried egg with dark soy souce and chilli ( From Shima )

Ingredient:

4 Chicken Eggs

Spanish onion

Chilli padi

Dark soy Souce

Lemon

Cooking oil

Cooking:

heat the oil in the wok, fry the chicken egg 4 all together, sprinkle with the onion and chilli padi  that alrady cut into small pieces, put the dark soy souce on top of egg, no need turn back the egg, just watch the fire to the medium and wait till cook as your choice ( half cook, full cook). Put the fry egg in the plate and sprinke with lemon.

Serve with hot rice and good companion for curry or deep fry fish…

Enjoy wifey…. its simple and delicious…

I might not good cook like our mother or older people, but at least I always put a homey food on the table for my love one the afford counts!!

Have a good weekend…